Well another Royal wedding to celebrate and I just love a wedding, my excitement is always around the dress of the bride!
I find the whole idea of marriage, where it came from and what it means to people fascinating. I always knew I wanted to get married and have a traditional style wedding, well as much as one can these days. Oh my days the cost… you put the word ‘wedding’ in front of wedding band, wedding venue, wedding car, wedding flowers and all of a sudden its double or triple the price!!
Clearly not something that Harry and Meghan had to worry about! And even though in America its customary for the brides parents to pay for the wedding, in this case it is tradition that the Royals always pay, I bet really her parents were rejoicing lol!
So where does it all begin…. Well ultimately with love, when you finally set eyes on that person, that person you can’t seem to take your eyes off of and it’s like there is no one else in the room. That person that suddenly makes you feel giddy at the thought of them, who makes you want to be with them all the time, who can make you laugh and cry harder than you ever thought possible. Maybe this is a view mocked by most but this is my idea of love and how it feels, maybe too fairy tale for some but I truly believe it. That doesn’t mean I think you find your one perfect Prince or you will be riding off into the sunset happily ever after. I’m sure even Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty got tired of picking up their husbands dirty socks from right near the washing basket but never in it!!
The Royals to this day have some very strict rules on what should go down on the day, like the Bride must wear white… A tradition I think lost a little more these days, as lets be honest, hardly anyone is marrying a ‘Virgin’ ha, ha! They also have two cakes – traditional fruit cake. The cake is then mailed to the wedding guests after, I think this is a fab idea, apart from the fruit cake bit but this has been a tradition dating back centuries, as fruit cake soaked in rum etc was considered a sign of wealth.
Love is universal but romance takes on an astonishing array of forms round the world. Here are a few that stuck out for me…
- In Korea they don’t just choose to celebrate valentines on the 14th of Feb but on every 14th of each month.
- In Fiji it is customary for the man to present the women’s father with a tooth from a Whale!! As a sign of his love and respect…Talk about pushing the boat out!!!
- In Scotland they feel it only right to prepare the couple for what marriage is truly about lol and they do this by pelting them with rotten eggs, treacle and rotting fish, its called ‘Blackening the Bride’ So by definition marriage is a life time of rotting food and humiliation? Well I guess it is, when the husband plays his game of how much can I stuff in the bin before taking it out!!
- Wodaabe Fula Tribe in Niger will dress in elaborate clothing and makeup and dance to attract a mate. I like this, its very primal and back to basics and sounds a little more romantic than a guy getting dressed up for the club and then singing and dancing drunk for you lol!!
The word ‘Wedding or Wed’ was derived from Anglo-Saxon to mean the price of the Bride. This was to be paid by the Groom to the Brides Father.
My Love Story
My experience of love or romance is always looking for those signs or feelings as I talked of before and as some will know I didn’t find my Prince Charming on the first try and we certainly didn’t ride off into the sunset and that was it! (Find out in the About Me bit!) However I do feel so lucky to have found Robert. Our first real date, Rob took me to Bath
where we stayed in a lovely quaint hotel and went out for dinner and shopping, now that was fantastic but it wasn’t a common occurrence but that man does know how to get me all choked up. After having William and suffering from PND, he disappeared for a few hours one night and when he returned, he had made me what could only be described as the most thoughtful and incredible gift and it was so simple. It was a glass jar and inside were hundreds or small pieces of different
coloured card and stuck on the outside was a coloured key code…. this pic helps explain all really. I had never had anyone go to that much trouble for me and it truly made a difference.
He doesn’t buy me flowers all the time but the times he has are times when I have needed it the most, like just a couple of weeks ago, I was feeling at my worst with my SPD and sciatica, he felt sad being at work so much and it was a small token of flowers and chocolates to say ‘I’m always thinking of you and I love you’. In the day to day stresses and strives of life, it’s the small things that count – making the cuppa, a kiss and cuddle when you come home, asking about the other’s day, sharing a joke or a story you heard, that last kiss good night and an “I love you”. For Robert I took the time to learn about his illness (Crohns-read more in the Health Kick Blog) and how I could cook better meals, take care of him at his worst, make sure he always has a clean ironed shirt and let him relax when I can see he needs it. Don’t get me wrong we can bicker all week but, an argument is never lingered on, as we are now wise enough to know, that no one would take him or me on, so we are stuck with each other!!
My wedding day was everything and more, my flowers were made of silk to the colour and spec I’d wanted from a company called Silk Bloom, my dress had been in my head for years and I knew exactly the one. I remember the lady in the store being shocked that I came and ordered it straight out the book without even trying it on! The designer was Ronald Joyce and it was called the Rosa. My Dad walked me down the isle (garden path). Jodie my best and longest friend in the world and my sister were my bridesmaid and they did such a fantastic job. My Cake was lemon and Raspberry swirl sponge with butter cream icing and made by a local lady called Emma. It was outside like I always dreamed of at a venue in Devon called Langdon Court and it felt light, beautiful and elegant. I didn’t stop smiling all day and when I finally got to bed at 2:30am still bubbling from all the excitement and champagne my jaw was aching so much!
I think these pics some it all up…
I wish everyone who is to be married or is married all the happiness in the world.
I will leave you with this quote…
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person “